I usually tend to write fun and informative posts on my blog, you know, like sharing crafty printables or writing about household budgeting goal of mine. But today, I want to talk about adventures with a traveling spouse.
My husband has been traveling a lot and I barely have time to take care of myself and three kids with school, preschool, homework, swim lessons, Bible study, church, fitness, etc that I don’t have time for the “extras” in life like blogging.
I’m one of those people who always has a daily planner within arm’s reach. I like to plan out my weeks in advance. Sometimes I even schedule playdates a month ahead of time so I know what we’re doing four Wednesday mornings from now.
A bit OCD – I KNOW. 😉
What Happens When a Planner Can’t Plan
It’s just the way I function and stay sane as a mom.
Unfortunately for me and my planning ways, my husband has to travel about 40% of the time. And sometimes he won’t know he has to go somewhere until a few days before. Or if he does know in advance, the details (exactly when he’s leaving or returning) are subject to change oftentimes.
I do pretty well when he can schedule a trip a month in advance and let me know about it. Then I can make fun plans for the rest of us and make sure not to plan something important for when he’s out of town.
These past three weeks have been difficult for me. He’s been gone 3-4 days each week, and destinations and times have changed several times.
For instance, this week I thought he was going to Miami Monday morning through late Tuesday night. Turns out he’s in Puerto Rico from Sunday afternoon to Wednesday afternoon!
I know this kind of thing is out of my control. His clients are constantly changing their minds and sometimes emergencies pop up. I also realize just how fortunate I am that I have a loving husband with a good job who provides for our family and my ability to stay at home with my kids because of it.
I guess I’m just stressed out by him being gone so much recently and having to take care of three kids and a household all by myself when I’m used to having him here.
I know there are lots of single moms out there who rock a one-parent household with style. I can already tell you I am NOT single mom material. If something happened to my husband, I’d have to get remarried STAT! Just being honest here. :=)
Maybe I just got spoiled when he was off work for a couple weeks recently? I don’t know. I forgot what the real world is like with him traveling for work and me not being a nutcase all the time.
I didn’t really have a plan for this post. I see now that I A) needed to rant and B) get your advice.
How Do You Cope with a Traveling Spouse?
I’ll be honest, I don’t have a lot of techniques in my arsenal when it comes to this. You’d think I would considering how much my husband travels.
But if I’m being honest, I’d say I just cope until he returns. I don’t have any family nearby, and three kids under the age of 6 is tough for me. Other than when I pay the babysitter so I can run an errand or go to the gym, I don’t really have any mental free time (if you count running errands as mental free time!) LOL
Of course, I am pretty good about thinking about how good we have it and that helps me get through. I also keep us fairly busy when he’s traveling for work so we don’t have time to miss him as much. But these tactics only go so far when you have one kid crying, another one dumping out the contents of the pantry onto the floor, and a third asking for help with homework while you’re trying to cook dinner.